Showing posts with label fear. Show all posts
Showing posts with label fear. Show all posts
As Jack looked back , he had regrets in life in many areas - Life, Career, Family…

It was the last day of his life and all he could say was " I wish I had known this long back"

His thoughts went back to the times when he graduated from the top MBA school and had one of the highest paying jobs in the world.  He had always lived a life of prosperity, succeeding from one step to another to finally end up being the CEO of the company he started working for.

Still looking back, he was sad and unhappy. During his youth, he thought having the biggest mansion and car was ultimate sign of happiness.

All he wanted today was one more chance to pursue his dream life: to become a photographer and travel all around the world.  One of his friends did advise him to take the risk and plunge into his passion, but he waived him off saying that he wanted job security and he will pursue his passion once he has enough money.

Later never came and year after year, he chased after money, wealth and fame. But he had no chance now and all he had was memories and his fear of failure which stopped him to do what he wanted? Does the story sound familiar to you?


How many times in our life, now when we look back and wish in our lives that we had the courage to take risks earlier. I was listening to a senior executive in Google who graduated from Stanford and his biggest advice to the graduates was to take risks early in their career and be open to new ideas/thoughts. How he wished, he could have taken risks and joined Google when it was 6 person company?

Don't we all have our goals and are bogged down by the norms of society and big corporate names when it comes to finding a job or sticking to the societal norms and then later in our life, we wish we could have been daring and open to new ideas.  We wish we had this daring and bold attitude  which will  not succumb to people's expectations. But why don't we convert our wish to a truth…There is only one answer:

FEAR OF FAILURE.


Ok , so let's look at the times, when we were born, we always wanted to try new things. Remember your first fall as a kid when you tried to walk or bike, remember how we were carefree…Do we still embody that same spirit and as it has happened to us in our childhood, if we did, more often than not we will come out and succeeded. Why? Because when you take risks, you know that you will never regret in future.

What's the worst that can happen if you follow your passion:  You will fail and still emerge out happy and strong in the end, knowing that you tried. In fact failure is the best thing that can happen to you because when you will fail, you will know that there cannot be any worse situation than you will be in. From there, the only way is up.

Here are a few examples:



“You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.

Remember if you will not try, we will end up being Jack in our lives. So what can you do now?

You are not living your last day, so remember this


"The future doesn't matter, the past is gone. There is only now. And Now is enough. It is more than enough. It is everything and that is why you run, you run and you run. And after that you run even more to reach your goals."

Every week I will share one inspiration nugget like this .If you like my page and want to join me on the journey of discovering our successes and failures, Don't hesitate to join me on the road to freedom....:)

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I wish I had known this.....

As Jack looked back , he had regrets in life in many areas - Life, Career, Family…

It was the last day of his life and all he could say was " I wish I had known this long back"

His thoughts went back to the times when he graduated from the top MBA school and had one of the highest paying jobs in the world.  He had always lived a life of prosperity, succeeding from one step to another to finally end up being the CEO of the company he started working for.

Still looking back, he was sad and unhappy. During his youth, he thought having the biggest mansion and car was ultimate sign of happiness.

All he wanted today was one more chance to pursue his dream life: to become a photographer and travel all around the world.  One of his friends did advise him to take the risk and plunge into his passion, but he waived him off saying that he wanted job security and he will pursue his passion once he has enough money.

Later never came and year after year, he chased after money, wealth and fame. But he had no chance now and all he had was memories and his fear of failure which stopped him to do what he wanted? Does the story sound familiar to you?


How many times in our life, now when we look back and wish in our lives that we had the courage to take risks earlier. I was listening to a senior executive in Google who graduated from Stanford and his biggest advice to the graduates was to take risks early in their career and be open to new ideas/thoughts. How he wished, he could have taken risks and joined Google when it was 6 person company?

Don't we all have our goals and are bogged down by the norms of society and big corporate names when it comes to finding a job or sticking to the societal norms and then later in our life, we wish we could have been daring and open to new ideas.  We wish we had this daring and bold attitude  which will  not succumb to people's expectations. But why don't we convert our wish to a truth…There is only one answer:

FEAR OF FAILURE.


Ok , so let's look at the times, when we were born, we always wanted to try new things. Remember your first fall as a kid when you tried to walk or bike, remember how we were carefree…Do we still embody that same spirit and as it has happened to us in our childhood, if we did, more often than not we will come out and succeeded. Why? Because when you take risks, you know that you will never regret in future.

What's the worst that can happen if you follow your passion:  You will fail and still emerge out happy and strong in the end, knowing that you tried. In fact failure is the best thing that can happen to you because when you will fail, you will know that there cannot be any worse situation than you will be in. From there, the only way is up.

Here are a few examples:



“You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.

Remember if you will not try, we will end up being Jack in our lives. So what can you do now?

You are not living your last day, so remember this


"The future doesn't matter, the past is gone. There is only now. And Now is enough. It is more than enough. It is everything and that is why you run, you run and you run. And after that you run even more to reach your goals."

Every week I will share one inspiration nugget like this .If you like my page and want to join me on the journey of discovering our successes and failures, Don't hesitate to join me on the road to freedom....:)

You can always subscribe this blog Feed or join me on Twitter or Facebook or contact me directly on [email protected]


Over the past few days, I have been reading a lot about Rafael Nadal's comeback and his superstitions. Be it Novak Djokovic's upcoming book which mentions Nadal as  "a ball of nervous tics and superstitious rituals." or speculations about  his performance during the hard court season, there are many opinions floating around.

Some people have called his knee issues as hoax, some find his superstitions funny, some think that he tries to deviate and undermine his chances of winning a Grand Slam and so on. Earlier on, I might have been guilty of believing in either of the opinions.

But not now as I believe that there can be another side to this story which people might have failed to see. What if his knee issues are real, what if a person who is known for his superstitions on and off the court really feels that he might not win a Grand Slam? Imagine a person who wakes up in the night after listening to thunderstorm and does not go to sleep till the storm passes, a person who is always meticulous about his rituals on the court - Doesn't it tell us something about Nadal?

Rafael Nadal is no doubt one of the greatest player in the world but if you closely observe his habits, you can see that beneath the surface, he is person who is haunted by doubts, nervous energy and fear. Otherwise why would the positioning of bottles matter so much for him during a match? The answer is simple: Because to Nadal's mind, these habits creates a sense of certainty and peace. It helps his mind quell away the negative energy of nervousness by creating a familiar environment.

It is a strong possibility that he is plagued by  thoughts of fear, doubts and uncertainty.  Yes, he is an icon of determination and mental toughness but if we look at history, many prominent people in various industries have been plagued by same fears. People who have been known for public speaking skills or acting still feel nervous before every presentation or play. Even players like Michael Jordan, Bjorn Borg, were famous for their superstitions. So it's completely humane for Nadal to feel the same when he has serious knee issues in his life.

Frank Bettger once said that "When you are scared, admit it". What if Rafael Nadal in sincere honesty admits to his knee problems, his fear that he might not win the next match every time he is asked a question?  It has been proven time and time again that men who fail to admit their fear are the ones who crack in the battle.  But if you admit that you are nervous, uncertain about your knees or chances of winning and don't try to fight it down, in most cases you are on the right road to overcoming your fear.


I believe by admitting to his fears and doubts, he just follows what is known to all that "There is no disgrace in admitting that we are scared but there is disgrace in failing to try" ( Frank Bettger).  What I just realized is that by doing so, Rafael Nadal actually  overcomes all his fears as he gives his 100 percent in every point that he plays.

It is not that he tries to take advantage of the rules or underestimates his chances. If we think deeply, he is a human being like us. How many of you are sure in your life that you will go on win every battle in life? Even if you have scored 100% in your exam for the first time, can you always say with certainty that you will score 100% next time also? I doubt that so what is wrong in admitting to the fact that you are not sure.
 

If there is one lesson I have learnt from Nadal is that if you are fearful and scared, admit it. It will help you ease your mind and see the wonders this rule will bring to you in your life. 12 Grand Slams, not a small feat by any standards.


Be Brave, Accept the fear and fight with courage. The next time you go before any exam or a challenge in your life, if suddenly you find yourself surrounded with nervousness, try the rule and you will see the remarkable change it will bring in your attitude.


If you have any questions, you can mail me at [email protected]

Rafael Nadal Superstitions and Knee Issues - Hoax or Fact?



Over the past few days, I have been reading a lot about Rafael Nadal's comeback and his superstitions. Be it Novak Djokovic's upcoming book which mentions Nadal as  "a ball of nervous tics and superstitious rituals." or speculations about  his performance during the hard court season, there are many opinions floating around.

Some people have called his knee issues as hoax, some find his superstitions funny, some think that he tries to deviate and undermine his chances of winning a Grand Slam and so on. Earlier on, I might have been guilty of believing in either of the opinions.

But not now as I believe that there can be another side to this story which people might have failed to see. What if his knee issues are real, what if a person who is known for his superstitions on and off the court really feels that he might not win a Grand Slam? Imagine a person who wakes up in the night after listening to thunderstorm and does not go to sleep till the storm passes, a person who is always meticulous about his rituals on the court - Doesn't it tell us something about Nadal?

Rafael Nadal is no doubt one of the greatest player in the world but if you closely observe his habits, you can see that beneath the surface, he is person who is haunted by doubts, nervous energy and fear. Otherwise why would the positioning of bottles matter so much for him during a match? The answer is simple: Because to Nadal's mind, these habits creates a sense of certainty and peace. It helps his mind quell away the negative energy of nervousness by creating a familiar environment.

It is a strong possibility that he is plagued by  thoughts of fear, doubts and uncertainty.  Yes, he is an icon of determination and mental toughness but if we look at history, many prominent people in various industries have been plagued by same fears. People who have been known for public speaking skills or acting still feel nervous before every presentation or play. Even players like Michael Jordan, Bjorn Borg, were famous for their superstitions. So it's completely humane for Nadal to feel the same when he has serious knee issues in his life.

Frank Bettger once said that "When you are scared, admit it". What if Rafael Nadal in sincere honesty admits to his knee problems, his fear that he might not win the next match every time he is asked a question?  It has been proven time and time again that men who fail to admit their fear are the ones who crack in the battle.  But if you admit that you are nervous, uncertain about your knees or chances of winning and don't try to fight it down, in most cases you are on the right road to overcoming your fear.


I believe by admitting to his fears and doubts, he just follows what is known to all that "There is no disgrace in admitting that we are scared but there is disgrace in failing to try" ( Frank Bettger).  What I just realized is that by doing so, Rafael Nadal actually  overcomes all his fears as he gives his 100 percent in every point that he plays.

It is not that he tries to take advantage of the rules or underestimates his chances. If we think deeply, he is a human being like us. How many of you are sure in your life that you will go on win every battle in life? Even if you have scored 100% in your exam for the first time, can you always say with certainty that you will score 100% next time also? I doubt that so what is wrong in admitting to the fact that you are not sure.
 

If there is one lesson I have learnt from Nadal is that if you are fearful and scared, admit it. It will help you ease your mind and see the wonders this rule will bring to you in your life. 12 Grand Slams, not a small feat by any standards.


Be Brave, Accept the fear and fight with courage. The next time you go before any exam or a challenge in your life, if suddenly you find yourself surrounded with nervousness, try the rule and you will see the remarkable change it will bring in your attitude.


If you have any questions, you can mail me at [email protected]


Novak Djokovic: “There was no self-belief on the court.  I got afraid from winning against Federer/Nadal.”

As I watched Djokovic’s feature on CBS-“ From War to Wimbledon” yesterday, I was left wondering how fear of winning can potentially stop us from realizing our potential and make us live a life of ordinary.

4 years in a row, match after match, Djokovic came up with the same result against his two opponents. He tried but still kept on losing. I can just imagine how frustrating it must have been for him to keep coming back to his locker room thinking of the reasons why he was not able to win.

10thSeptember, 2010. Flushing Meadows, Djokovic is down a match point on his serve and even before the ball was tossed, people had started talking about Federer’s chances against Nadal in the finals. Little did they know they were about to witness the rise of a fearless champion.

At the post match interview,  he said while facing match point, he started playing freely because his back was against the wall and he had nothing left to lose.  In that instant, Djokovic must have realized that on the other side of every fear is freedom. And thereby started the story of his rebirth, since the last 1.5 years, he has accomplished achievements which only few could have imagined. Tennis fans witnessed one of the best season in the history of tennis: 11 titles including 3 GS & 5 ATP World Tour Masters. 

Probably this fear is what propelled him to greatness. As he must have realized that tennis supremacy was all that was left to gain. What had he to lose? He was already losing to Federer/Nadal in the GS so why not just go out there and face his fear heads on!

In our lives, isn’t it fear which is stopping us? What do you fear the most? Some have fear of heights, some have stage fright, some people are afraid of higher education, some fear they are not capable of preforming a certain task and so on. You might be afraid of many things in life but you must always overcome them. Do the things which you think you cannot do. What will happen- in the worst case scenario you will end up not doing it. That’s alright as you were already at that stage only. Right?

Imagine if Djokovic would have continued to be afraid……..

I will end this article with a beautiful poem I read this morning by Frank Herbert & instantly Djokovic’s image came to my mind:

I must not fear.
Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.
Only I will remain.

How true?


Also: The Story of the Courage of Kathrine Switzer

The Power of Belief ! (Roger Federer)

Alisa Kleybanova: The Fighter, The Survivor & The Player!

The Humble Rafa- Part I

If you have any questions- You can mail me at [email protected]http://twitter.com/#!/ApekshaHA or http://on.fb.me/pouTOy   



Novak Djokovic- The Fearless Champion!



Novak Djokovic: “There was no self-belief on the court.  I got afraid from winning against Federer/Nadal.”

As I watched Djokovic’s feature on CBS-“ From War to Wimbledon” yesterday, I was left wondering how fear of winning can potentially stop us from realizing our potential and make us live a life of ordinary.

4 years in a row, match after match, Djokovic came up with the same result against his two opponents. He tried but still kept on losing. I can just imagine how frustrating it must have been for him to keep coming back to his locker room thinking of the reasons why he was not able to win.

10thSeptember, 2010. Flushing Meadows, Djokovic is down a match point on his serve and even before the ball was tossed, people had started talking about Federer’s chances against Nadal in the finals. Little did they know they were about to witness the rise of a fearless champion.

At the post match interview,  he said while facing match point, he started playing freely because his back was against the wall and he had nothing left to lose.  In that instant, Djokovic must have realized that on the other side of every fear is freedom. And thereby started the story of his rebirth, since the last 1.5 years, he has accomplished achievements which only few could have imagined. Tennis fans witnessed one of the best season in the history of tennis: 11 titles including 3 GS & 5 ATP World Tour Masters. 

Probably this fear is what propelled him to greatness. As he must have realized that tennis supremacy was all that was left to gain. What had he to lose? He was already losing to Federer/Nadal in the GS so why not just go out there and face his fear heads on!

In our lives, isn’t it fear which is stopping us? What do you fear the most? Some have fear of heights, some have stage fright, some people are afraid of higher education, some fear they are not capable of preforming a certain task and so on. You might be afraid of many things in life but you must always overcome them. Do the things which you think you cannot do. What will happen- in the worst case scenario you will end up not doing it. That’s alright as you were already at that stage only. Right?

Imagine if Djokovic would have continued to be afraid……..

I will end this article with a beautiful poem I read this morning by Frank Herbert & instantly Djokovic’s image came to my mind:

I must not fear.
Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.
Only I will remain.

How true?


Also: The Story of the Courage of Kathrine Switzer

The Power of Belief ! (Roger Federer)

Alisa Kleybanova: The Fighter, The Survivor & The Player!

The Humble Rafa- Part I

If you have any questions- You can mail me at [email protected]http://twitter.com/#!/ApekshaHA or http://on.fb.me/pouTOy   



“Fear cannot be without some hope nor hope without some fear.”Baruch Spinoza (1632 – 77) Dutch philosopher
Fear - Hope Quotes - Baruch Spinoza

Fear - Hope Quotes - Baruch Spinoza

“Fear cannot be without some hope nor hope without some fear.”Baruch Spinoza (1632 – 77) Dutch philosopher